Theories of Personality: Notes: Model of Health

Rogerian Theory: humanistic psychology

Essential worth of the whole person

Creativity

Free choice/personal responsibility

Spontaneity [the more spontaneity the more creative]

Internationalism

Subjective experience [what’s going on inside of you at this time]

Present rather than past future

Humanism psychology assumptions

People are capable of solving their own psychological problems

Under the right conditions, people move toward psychological growth/fulfillment

Existentialism

Rollo May

People “are free and responsible and have choice at the core of their existence” (Allen, 2000, p. 200).

Phenomenology

The world as I perceive and experience it at this moment

Underscores importance of getting into the client’s world of meaning

The General Actualizing Tendency

The built-in motivation (biological tendency) present in every life-form to maintain or enhance itself

Four significant characteristics:

Organismic [nature, biological, predisposition]

Active process

Directional

Selective

Model of Health

Healthy people are:

Fully aware

Honest

Personally satisfied

Spontaneous

Trust themselves

Driven from within rather than controlled by external forces

Open to and “fully alive to the moment” (Jones and Butman, 1991, p. 259)

Growing

Model of abnormality

Conflicts between who I am (caught-concept formed by self-experiences) and who I should be (ideal self)

“This is me, God knows me.” Michelle

Enjoy,

-Pate

That's that.

Recently, I got hooked on PostSecrets

I really enjoy reading the private anonymous thoughts and secrets in each postcard. I find honest and real thoughts so very refreshing. Even though some of postcards are sad, I still really enjoy the thought-provoking stimuli they contain.

I was so inspired by this free-writing concept that I wrote three of my own.

When I get the money I’m going to buy the PostSecret series.

I’d write them in here, but the entries would no longer be anonymous.

“God, grant me the serenity to ACCEPT the things I cannot change, the COURAGE to change the things I can; and the WISDOM to know the difference. “

-the serenity prayer - alcoholics anonymous - reinhold niebuhr

I want to get this book— Note to Self: On Keeping a Journal and Other Dangerous Pursuits by Samara O'shea

So, that’s that.

-Pate

The Way I See It

Our greatest prejudice is against death. It spans age, gender and race. We spend immeasurable amounts of energy fighting an event that will eventually triumph. Though it is noble not to give in easily, the most alive people I've ever met are those who embrace their death. They love, laugh, and live more fully.

--Andy Webster

It takes two seconds to tell the truth and it costs nothing. A lie takes time and it costs everything.

--Randi Rhodes

Dealing with it

What will 28 be like...?

What will I be like...?

Will I like myself...?

Will I have the same friends...?

Will I be married...?

Will I be healthy...?


Who would leave me by this age...?

Will I even make it to 28...?


Questions that fog up my mind…


I use this age for 2 reasons:

Reason 1: 28 is how old Adam, the only person I REALLY looked up to & wanted to be like, was killed Easter Morning

Reason 2: Jason Wade, the lead singer of my favorite band, is currently 28.


For some 28 is their current age.

While others vaguely remember.


Still others remember and perhaps wonder... What have I become?


Who will I BE when I’m 28?

What WILL I be like?

The SAME person… dealing with the SAME issues…

I hope not...


Currently... dealing with it…

-Pate

I ask you for life?

What is life?
What is love?

What is vulnerability and why does it matter?

It’s not really getting me anywhere…

O dear sweet Jesus. Kill me. Deep inside me I long for death. I ask for death because I’m too much of a mess to stand anymore. I’m far gone to find my way back. I want my heart to stop beating inside my chest. Be still beating heart. I want death. I ask for death. Kill me God. Destroy my life and cause me to die. I can’t live anymore. Exchange my worthless life for someone desiring to live, but can’t due to illness. Take my life energy and give it to another. Let me switch places with an awesome man or woman of God dying, let them live and let me die. Kill me Lord. Fade me to nothing. May my blood become hard and my body stiff. My I know darkness and never light. May I never again awake and step out into day. End me O God. Stop me, kill me, take me. I am worthless and do not deserve to live.

-A Cry For Help

Help... what does it mean to help. Does anyone know how? Lord Jesus strike me with peace. Flood my soul with joy. Deliver me from evil.

A boy who is lost & wakes every day saying, “I don’t know what the f*** am I doing…”

What is he to do? Why does the very help he ask for not come?

What is he doing wrong?

Dare I ask.

-Pate

Copy & Paste

My soul craves.
Thoughts, but more blurbs concerning Soul Cravings:

I’m borrowing this book from my newly-found-friend Will.

Dan had mentioned this book to me over the summer, but I hadn’t gotten around to buying the book. I’m excited.

I read the first 3 or 4 chapters last night. I’m not gonna lie, I really started crying within the first couple sentences.

No, wait. Now that I think about it… it wasn’t till the third or fourth page of the first chapter did any of that blubbering happen. I laughed right at the beginning…

“I wake up each morning reminded that all I need to face the day is to breathe deeply of fresh air and to find my way to the nearest Starbucks.”

Before you condemn me, let me assure you it’s not an addiction but an appreciation. I can quit anytime, and so I don’t need to. I’m convinced coffee is an acquired taste. The aroma is better than the flavor, not to mention the compelling nature of the effect.”

--Erwin Raphael McManus

Back to crying… Perhaps, it was because of the time. It was late when I started reading. OR it’s just because I can be crazy-sensitive sometimes.

Anyway, the book is SO [meaning, very] appropriate for exactly how I’ve been feeling for quite sometime now.

“There are cravings within me… …that pull on me like an addiction.”

--Erwin Raphael McManus

This encouraged me: "[he] ...never found the help to figure himself out.”

“We’re all struggling to figure ourselves out.”

“Jesus once said that the Kingdom of God is within us. Yet most of us don’t even bother to explore the possibility that this might be true. It seems that what he is implying is that we have a better chance of find God in the universe within us than in the one the surrounds us.”

“My soul was confused and cold and growing calloused, and I was quickly becoming blind to so many things. When your soul is sick, one of the symptoms is blindness.

Bitterness, for instance, is like a cancer that makes you blind. I had allowed hurt to make my soul toxic. From my end, I was sure that I was just becoming realist. In fact, I was desensitizing myself. Why risk being hurt more? I didn’t realize I was becoming blind to love.”

“Bitterness turned to skepticism, which turned to cynicism, which turned to an emptiness of my soul.

Bitterness is the enemy of love because it makes you unforgiving and unwilling to give love unconditionally.

It is the enemy of hope because you keep living in the past and become incapable of seeing a better future.

It is the enemy of faith because you stop trusting in anyone but yourself." [WOW, if you knew me… you would know how deeply this book is affecting me].

“…a journey of self discovery” [which is one of my favorite things, if not my actual favorite thing :)].

“The following pages reflect my journey, and I invite you to join me on my search. I’ve never believed you can or should even try to force God on someone. This book is my gift to you who are on a genuine search for God. I say it is a gift because I know I can’t expect you to open your soul if I do not bare my own

My soul craves.

If your does too, then let’s travel together for a while.”

--Erwin Raphael McManus

I wrote these quotes in here to share and to remember them. The book is not mine.

--Pate

Question?

Is there anything more beautiful THAN the sky?